So, I thought I'd break the stride and post something different, one that doesn't portray my psychotic aspect. First, thanks to all that have visited my blog so far. I actually feel welcomed and I hope I don't scare you all away with my crazy stories. But on the positive side, sometimes hearing about other people's craziness does make you feel a lot saner, doesn't it?
I loved keeping a journal. I'm very introspective and everyday I would sit and analyze my thoughts and actions. However, when your journal lands in the wrong hands, it really does discourage you from writing. Hence my switch to the blogs. There's just something about telling strangers about yourself. It's almost like a fetish.
Now onto something that pertains to the title. Why is it that many guys find it so hard to express their feelings? If you like someone, why not come right out and say it? The funny thing is, they have no problem saying sweet nothings they don't mean to other girls, but when it comes to someone they really really like, they'd rather die. Guys, correct me if I'm wrong.
Take for example guy 1 and guy 2. Both of them I've known for four or five years. Guy 1 was my study partner for the longest time in college and we hang out a lot and made samosas (he did, I can't make a samosa to save my life) and I was glad to have a guy friend that wasn't constantly trying to get in my pants. Right? Wrong. After four years of college, I found out from a mutual friend that he was "in love" with me and that was the only reason he would want to hang out and cook me samosas. Now how on earth was I supposed to know he was interested if he didn't ever hint at it? He's good looking and dateable, but now that I know his motives, we don't hang out as much and our friendship's feeble at best.
Then there's Guy 2. One of those "my mom and your mom went to high school together so we'll try to be civil to each other" relationships. I totally dislike him and we have never been able to spend more than half an hour together without arguing over something. We had to plan an event together recently, and during a break, we went to Starbucks for a quick cup of coffee. While making small talk, I mentioned the fact that I had a boyfriend. I hadn't seen Guy 2 in over 6 months and I'd always assumed that the dislike was a mutual feeling we held for each other. So imagine my shock when the guy starts tripping and going on and on about how he liked me and how he'd hoped to hook up sometime "soon". How on earth was I supposed to know that he liked me? Well, according to him, he helped me wash dishes one time after a party at my house, something he didn't like doing. And, I'm the only person he ever goes out for coffee with coz he hates coffee. HUH? How am I supposed to know that?
There are numerous other examples, but you get the point. So, guys, what is your way of showing a girl that you like her? And ladies, short of a guy blurting it out, how have you been able to tell that a certain guy likes you and is not necessarily after your booty?
12 comments:
my hasira has cooled...(you leaving us in suspence)
Sis, it goes both ways. i once had a chick who behaved like those jamaas. we kosanad once coz as per her she was always there so i should have seen it she loved/liked me. she never said nada. yaani, you have to bembeleza her...
it goes both ways.
Yeah it does go both ways. The fear of rejection and unrequited love is most certainly unisex.
I say there's no use reinventing the wheel. Do what used to work back in the day...the Std 5 love note.
Sneak up on your crush, tap them on the shoulder, give them a note, and then run away like you just pissed yourself.
In the note it should say:
Do you like me? Pick One.
Yes____ No _____ Maybe______
Just make sure you don't run to far to see the reaction and, if it's good, walk back. But also make sure you're also far away enough not to hear any yelled insults.
LOL makanga, i like that std.5 love note suggestion. Have a crush and have picked at enough daffodils wondering if he loves me or not... time to write that note (grin!)
SBB, awesome stuff. Keep up the great writing, and hope you get/got the relationship sorted out.
@madoathi, I agree, it does go both ways. Especially we African sisters who've been brought up to wait around for some guy to ask us out first. Unfortunately (or fortunately?) I'm not one of the shy ones. If I like you, believe me, you'll know about it. My boyfriend once told me I was too forward and I just had to laugh at that.
@Makanga, you'll be surprised how well that works. It's quirky, and if the person was gonna say no, they might reconsider. Tried it once recently and it worked like a charm :)
@rista, try the note, might work:)
Thanks for stopping by, and for the compliment.
I must admit it used to be like that when I was younger. I speak my mind these days tho. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, right?
On the flipside of the equation, girls front too - perpetrating when she's around a dude, then gushing on and on to her friends about how much she's feeling the dude.
You now have a new fan! Let me catch up on your adventures first before I comments; there is a whole lot to read!
I used to be shy when I was younger but now will walk up to the object of my desire and ask them out.
Be very careful of the 'friend' trap.
I think this is a puzzling situation coz at times when you come straight out with it the mama gets scared but if you take time with it you are put in the friends category.
With dudes its hard to know if it is you or the booty they want because some are such good actors!
Agreed. SO! Agreed.
Think you got it wrong on one score though - men aint from Mars. They are from another universe (I think they had to migrate from Kryptonite when it blew up - no wonder all the machosism)...phew
@d, with girls, I think many are just "shy" to the point where they'll never make the first move cuz it's simply "unladylike". Thankfully, I'm not one of those girls.
@aco, you're welcome to stay as long as you want, I'll pay you a visit on your corner of the net :)
@ichiena, agreed! It's interesting to also watch the comments the guys leave and the ones the ladies leave, totally different!
First time here, melikes your style.
The source of all boy/girl problems is communication. Especially on the boy's part (sorry martians!) the girls at least will show in other ways that they are feeling you.
The men? Help you wash dishes like in this case. you got yourself another fan.
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